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Posted on May 8, 2019 by in The Bedhead Blog | 6 comments

Michelle drinking from a Wonder Woman mug

I’ve been thinking a lot about legacy lately.

Last October I turned 50, and it made me feel old. It made me start thinking about what I want to be known for while I’m still here and long after I’m gone. What do people say about me when I’m not in the room? What will they say about me when I’m a faded memory?

I try to live my life in a way that anyone who knows me is happy to know me. I know I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, even if it is served in a Wonder Woman mug, but that doesn’t stop me from trying to be the best version of myself every day. I make mistakes. I’m far from perfect. 

Michelle wearing Wonder Woman sunglasses

I’m not saying I’m Wonder Woman, but have you ever seen us both in the same room?

I often come back to being Wonder Woman, but I’m far from being her. She’s sleek. I’m…not. She rocks high-heeled boots. I wear Crocs. Her hair is perfectly coiffed no matter what. Most days I at least brush mine. She’s bullet-proof. I’m vulnerable. She has a lasso of truth. I trust.

Superheroes are fun. They are a nice escape from reality – but they aren’t reality. We can’t live like them. We’re not faster than a speeding bullet or more powerful than a locomotive. We can’t fly. We can’t see through brick walls or read minds. But we can do our best to help others.

That’s what I hope is said about me behind my back. I hope that when I’m not in the room and someone says “Do you know Michelle?” that the other person says “yes – what a nice and generous person she is.” Because isn’t that what life is about? Helping others? Being nice? Doing our best?

Life can be very solitary. I spend a lot of time alone (yes, with cats…but still pretty alone). I could sit on the couch and watch TV. I could engulf myself in a book. I could sleep. I could do any of a dozen things, but instead, I choose to try to help others, whether that’s a stranger on Reddit who needs some CSS help, an organization that needs some marketing advice, or a friend asking for prayers. I do what I can to help. 

do like to think of myself as Wonder Woman, but in reality, I’m a little more like Polyanna. I believe in the good in people. I don’t need a lasso of truth, because I trust that people are who they show themselves to be. I don’t need bullet-proof bracelets, because I’m secure in my vulnerability. And I don’t need to be sleek and perfectly coiffed. I’m ok with bedhead and a plus-sized denim skirt. I’m ok with Crocs. I’m ok with not being someone else’s cup of tea. And I’m ok with not being perfect.

As long as I’m helping, making the most of every day, and living as my best self in every moment.

That’s a legacy I can get behind.

Your bedheaded blogger,


  1. Great post! I love your outlook, it’s inspirational. You have definitely made a positive impact on my life. 🙂

    • Thank you! Working with people like you (and you specifically) makes it easy!

  2. To know you is to love you! Thank you for sharing, and making me smile. you have such a way with words!

    • Aw, thanks, Hannah! You’re the sweetest!

  3. Michelle, I really love your confidence. I first encountered your work over on Heropress. I was taken to another website you own (worksbymichelle) and then to this one.

    I really appreciate how well you outlined how it’s important to stay true to oneself. I previously found that I was working tirelessly to please everyone, but as you’ve mentioned in your post, I am “not everyone’s cup of tea.” To be honest, I’m OK with that.

    Helping others bring true contentment. That help won’t always be perfect, and sometimes the recipient might not be grateful, but we do what we can to get by, right?

    Keep shining with your beautiful personality.

    At 26, I’m a bit reserved, but I know that one day, I’ll spread my wings, as you’re doing, and feel the breath graze upon my face.
    All the best in your endeavours, and I do hope our paths collide (instead of cross) someday. 😊

    • Hi Samantha!

      You’ve warmed my heart with your comments. Thank you for such kind words. It takes time to develop a bigger comfort zone, and I certainly didn’t get as comfortable and confident as I am now overnight! But you can do it. I’d love to keep in touch and watch you spread your wings and take flight! Let’s “collide” soon!

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